More importantly… how’s your soul resilience?
Life is busy, complex, complicated, and filled with responsibilities. Did I say busy – right – it can sometimes be so overwhelming, so stressful, filled with zero time to do what you want, be it spending time with God, others, or yourself.
The image the word “resilience” brings to my mind is strength – like the image of someone standing on the top of a mountain. It sends me an implied message that it’s not just about strength but also success, achievement, and conquering all the big stuff.
Some days I don’t feel very much like a successful mountain climber.
How about you?
The stress of life’s busyness and life circumstances can take its toll on most of us. Some days I feel more like the water barrel I have at the corner of my house that always seems to be on empty – even after a rainfall.
My water barrel is supposed to capture all the rainwater so I can water my garden plants with natural rain water, but for some reason, every time I go to draw from it, it’s empty. I’ve checked for holes but can’t find them. Yet I’m sure there are tiny holes hiding from plain sight that let all that good water drain out not allowing me to use it in a way it was intended.
Let me ask you – do you feel more like the strong mountain climber or like the water barrel with holes? Maybe it depends?
If you answered mountain climber – wonderful, that’s amazing – please send me some of the soul care practices that help you. Sharing tips with others is good!
If you sometimes feel like that water barrel with holes depleting your energy and motivation, I hope that this blog might get you to consider ways that you can gently, lovingly attend to your soul. I also hope it will spur you on to consider ways to prepare for those challenging days while remembering that cultivating resilience takes time and tender loving care.
Back to the mountain climber. The question I have is… what if resilience is really something gentler that encompasses gradual growth, something that is not all about achieving but more about a process, a way of being, and cultivating a way of life? Maybe it’s something that embraces a more welcoming, patient, and gentle stance and is a process that embraces wholeness that attends to all parts of us – body, mind, spirit.
An image for soul resilience might be more like a grandpa’s old watch whose inner workings interconnect and work in a type of interdependent harmony because each part has been uniquely designed by its maker to have a role, a function, and when meticulously cared for works in harmony with the other parts as a whole.
Resilience is a journey. Resilience is a process. It is not a list of to-do’s that we must check off or work harder at. It’s a way of cultivating awareness and checking-in, being gentle, self-compassionate, taking the time to love ourselves while uncovering our needs with a welcoming acceptance in our lives as a continual way of tending to our soul – that which God created. Cultivating resilience can help us learn to live life well and embrace life despite all the challenges and limitations. And on those difficult days it could help us find new ways to embrace an enduring kind of hope.
Resilience grows as we grow and learn to welcome all those parts of our soul (body (all our physical parts), mind (thoughts, emotions, decisions), and spirit). Our soul condition affects our relationships with God and others.
Resilience is one of those things that when we practice soul care we tend to get better at it and can draw from it as a foundational gentle, loving practice to attend to ourselves. It can become something we draw upon during those difficult days. For years I taught about resilience and getting unstuck, then I realized how resilience is like a muscle that strengthens with slow, deliberate practice helping us find ways to cope on difficult days.
My difficult days were when I went through an oral cancer journey. My soul care practices helped me everyday care for different aspects of my soul and my relationship with God and others.
During those long isolated pandemic months of surgery, treatment, and recovery I had much time to reflect on what resilience and soul care meant in a crisis. It didn’t mean all my challenges vanished, or that I’d get my tongue back to the way it was, or that my cancer would never recur.
It meant that I was able to care for my soul (body, mind, and spirit) in ways that brought new wholeness and life, and it brought me closer to God and others despite what the future held. And best of all it made good changes in me and has allowed good fruit to be borne from a difficult situation.
Our soul, created with loving care, is a made up of all parts of us – body, mind (thoughts, emotions), and spirit. When we attend to and care for ourselves holistically we can feel more resilient. The more resilient we become we seem to be better able to connect with God, others, and to face each day with hope – on the good days and even on the challenging days. And it will bring us a new kind of strength to persevere and the potential to bear good fruit.